Friday, December 13, 2013

Terrible 2's?

I have often heard parents moan & groan over the more challenging stage often referred to as the "terrible two's". Personally, I have never experienced this phase with my kids. BUT the "extremely feisty-want to challenge you continuously-not quite 2 yet" stage. Yep, been there. Several times as a matter of fact.

The important things to remember when pushing through this time with your toddler is that the more consistent & "on it" you & your partner are, the shorter this stage will be. It can be a very draining & tiring stage at times when you find yourself correcting your tot for the 121st time over the same exact thing. Sometimes you may even find yourself in situations that have you feeling a lil' embarrassed like a huge meltdown in public that has you questioning "Who is this child?", but don't let it beat you. Perseverance & patience are definitely needed, keeping your eye on the prize! You have to remember you are investing in their future & in the person you want them to be.

At the moment I am speaking through my own personal experience. As I said, I have been through this stage many times before & am currently pushing through it once again with my adorable & peppery lil' Adley. It is around this age that they begin to find their voice, this sometimes means an ear piercing shriek to voice discontent or frustration. They start to favor words like "NO" & "mine". Sometimes they may test out the waters on pulling siblings hair, stomping feet, avoiding sharing, throwing things, or seeing how long they can get away with not coming immediately when called. 

As parents we have to make up our minds that we are going to let them know every single time that these actions are not acceptable. At times for me this has meant stopping mid-pump, running all the way up stairs or down stairs several times to make sure situations are resolved, putting phone conversations on hold to nip a behavior in the bud immediately, having to put the baby down in the middle of his bottle to intervene on some not so acceptable behaviors or whatever. 

No one ever said good parenting is always going to be convenient. It takes work & a lot of it. You are ALWAYS "on the clock" as a parent, but the ultimate payoff is priceless! If you put in the real work during the earlier stages, then you will find that molding & shaping your kids becomes a lot easier later on. Also, if you make sure that your older children are "in line", you will find that as more siblings come along they are huge help in setting good examples for their younger siblings who are definitely going to mimic them & look up to what they say & do.

Another very important note I have to mention before closing out this post is to be very careful about what you say/confess over your kids during this stage (at all stages as a matter of fact). Kids are smart, they know when you have given up on them. To say things like "Well 'Katie' is just a finicky kid" or "That 'Johnny' is always cranky when he wakes up" is telling your child on a level that you have given up or accepted that a behavior/attitude is never going to change. A child is not going to rise to the occasion if they don't have to. Set your standards high, confess positive things over their life even if you are not necessarily seeing it yet. Saying things like "That Katie can flow & try new things" or "Johnny chooses to wake up with joy!" are better things to say to steer your child towards success!

So, Parents. In conclusion, do not lose heart & grow weary in stages that are more challenging. This too shall pass, lol. Stay consistent, patient, & true to the limits & expectations you set for your kids. It WILL pay off!

-M&M Momma

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Enjoying sister-sister library time

All ready for the Christmas show!

Waiting for the show to begin

It was amazing,
beginning to end!

"Rosie" the elephant

Flying angels,
the girls loved it!

Live camels!

Not so happy lil' guy

We love Super J!

Monday, December 9, 2013

Sunday Funday Pictures!

Butcher paper fun!

Family time!

Getting her nails done
for the first time with her buddy

Purple was the winner!

Ice cream to finish

Silly sisters!

Time for church!

Zye posing with his baby shower
cake topper!

Dress rehearsal before
the big Christmas show!

Their cheerleader.
Silly ladies!

Time for the show!

They were very excited.

A present for being such a
great cheerleader.

Ready for a winter festival

They all loved the snow.
Asher turned out to be the
biggest snow bunny
and Adley wanted to eat it!

Watching a singing performance,
Aidann loved watching the kids
around her age being
so bold singing.

Her new "minnie bow"

Enjoying time in the bouncy house
all by herself.

Asher chose the Cars ride of course.

Spiderman fun for Aidann!

Time to ride back home!

Ready for bed.

First time at church-STUD lol

Ready for church

Enjoying their cousin's 2nd
It was Monster's Inc but Austin
called it a "Mikie Mikie" party!

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