I think while we are lil’ & so uninhibited, we are more likely to say what we feel/exactly what is on our minds ( good or even bad lol). It is as we get older, I think we become more self conscious, too prideful, or just too busy that we begin giving out compliments less & less. Personally, I will own up to the “too busy” excuse. There would be so many times that I would pass someone & think “I love her hair today” or “what an awesome outfit” & instead of taking the time to let that person know, I would have already moved on to the next thought. Now, I could sit there & accept that because I seriously am constantly SO BUSY, but then 1 day when I honestly had not been feeling so beautiful (maybe from the kazillion pounds I had gained from being 9 months pregnant or the Sahara Desert like dry skin my unborn baby had gifted me with) a woman out of nowhere stopped me & said “You are so pretty, positively glowing”. This compliment really just stopped me in my tracks, someone that I didn’t even know thought something & even though I am sure she was pretty busy herself with arms full of groceries, she still took the time pay me a compliment. It did make my day. It was flattering.
Now, its not the first time I have been stopped by someone for a sweet compliment, but this time in particular really really meant something extra. I think I kind of had a mini epiphany, somewhere along the way I had stopped giving out compliments as regularly as I use to. I had really let “busy” take over on a level. I mean I did still give some compliments, but not as often as I was thinking them. I would see a mom with her 3 kids in a store. One of the kids started acting up because she would not get them what they wanted & instead of her just conceding she stuck to her guns & handled her business. I would think “Great job, Mama”, but why not tell her? I am sure she could have used the encouragement right then. That is the kind of person I strive to be & want my kids to be-Encouragers. Not just to the people we know, but if we see someone doing something great or we notice something about them that we like, then say it. I am not talking about blowing smoke up peoples’ behinds, but just being genuine & real. We also need to make sure that we are not so caught up in our own lives & to-do’s that we do not notice if someone is down or struggling. You may think your lil’ compliment or just letting someone know you are there for them & care won’t really make that big of a difference, but sometimes it really does make all the difference.
These are some of the lil’ things I would like to model for my kids & nurture in them.
|Water fun...time for a larger pool I think, lol|
|Brain freeze from her popsicle|
The newborn struggle to stay awake is real.
|Making police hats|
|Even Z enjoys the songs & dancing of library story time|
|"Unsure" is the best way to describe his reaction |
to the motorcycle
|Princess & Knight storytime|